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manticoreimaginary:

"I am a big girl. A voluptuous, curvy, dress-wearing lesbian. I love my body; it’s the only one I’ll ever have. I eat a lot of greens and work out and drink gin martinis and put M&Ms in my froyo and sometimes I don’t do anything but watch Project Runway. I am allowed to look sexy, feel sexy, and be in love. I am worthy of all of those things, and so are you. Own your good and bad, and all the scary parts that you’ve been covering up because it is yours and no amount of judgement can tell you how to love your body. In the words of Sonya Renee, the body is not an apology. You are magic.

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gayforjesus:

chocolatefitspo:

ayeeeeeeeeeeebohp:

Take 5 minutes out of your morning/night to educate yourself on this young man LL. The brother was LYNCHED. “Crackertown”, North Carolina. Been gone since the morning of Aug. 29th. Day of his first football game of his senior year. All that hard work in the summer for nothin’. #JusticeForLennonLacy

This needs more light..

A little more information, 17-year-old Lennon Lacy was found hanging from a swingset on August 29th and cause of death was identified as asphyxia due to hanging. Police are calling it a suicide - as in no foul play involved. HOWEVER, Lacy’s mother, while looking at her dead son in the body bag, noticed a lump on his head that she hadn’t seen the day before. It was not noted in the autopsy. He was also found wearing different shoes, not the size 12 gray and neon green Jordan’s he bought a few days before, but a pair of 10.5 white sneakers with the laces removed that his family did not recognize.
Lacy was also in a relationship with a 31-year-old white woman. They were forced to lie about their relationship because in the small North Carolina town of Bladenboro, where 86 Black people were lynched between 1882 and 1968, an interracial relationship between a 17-year-old and 31-year-old caused some “tension”. Lacy’s neighbors were instructed by police to take down a confederate flag and sign that read “N*****s Keep Out’.
Just days after Lacy’s funeral, his grave was desecrated, taking the flowers 40 feet away from his burial site and digging a hole in the plot. (x)
Keep doing research. Keep spreading the word. Don’t forget him. #JusticeForLennonLacy

gayforjesus:

chocolatefitspo:

ayeeeeeeeeeeebohp:

Take 5 minutes out of your morning/night to educate yourself on this young man LL. The brother was LYNCHED. “Crackertown”, North Carolina. Been gone since the morning of Aug. 29th. Day of his first football game of his senior year. All that hard work in the summer for nothin’. #JusticeForLennonLacy

This needs more light..

A little more information, 17-year-old Lennon Lacy was found hanging from a swingset on August 29th and cause of death was identified as asphyxia due to hanging. Police are calling it a suicide - as in no foul play involved. HOWEVER, Lacy’s mother, while looking at her dead son in the body bag, noticed a lump on his head that she hadn’t seen the day before. It was not noted in the autopsy. He was also found wearing different shoes, not the size 12 gray and neon green Jordan’s he bought a few days before, but a pair of 10.5 white sneakers with the laces removed that his family did not recognize.

Lacy was also in a relationship with a 31-year-old white woman. They were forced to lie about their relationship because in the small North Carolina town of Bladenboro, where 86 Black people were lynched between 1882 and 1968, an interracial relationship between a 17-year-old and 31-year-old caused some “tension”. Lacy’s neighbors were instructed by police to take down a confederate flag and sign that read “N*****s Keep Out’.

Just days after Lacy’s funeral, his grave was desecrated, taking the flowers 40 feet away from his burial site and digging a hole in the plot.
(x)

Keep doing research. Keep spreading the word. Don’t forget him. #JusticeForLennonLacy

witch-lyfe

You want to say Hi to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react? Fortunately, I can tell you with some certainty, because she’s already sending messages to you. Looking out the window, reading a book, working on a computer, arms folded across chest, body away from you = do not disturb. So, y’know, don’t disturb her. Really. Even to say that you like her hair, shoes, or book. A compliment is not always a reason for women to smile and say thank you. You are a threat, remember? You are Schrödinger’s Rapist. Don’t assume that whatever you have to say will win her over with charm or flattery. Believe what she’s signaling, and back off.

If you speak, and she responds in a monosyllabic way without looking at you, she’s saying, “I don’t want to be rude, but please leave me alone.” You don’t know why. It could be “Please leave me alone because I am trying to memorize Beowulf.” It could be “Please leave me alone because you are a scary, scary man with breath like a water buffalo.” It could be “Please leave me alone because I am planning my assassination of a major geopolitical figure and I will have to kill you if you are able to recognize me and blow my cover.”

On the other hand, if she is turned towards you, making eye contact, and she responds in a friendly and talkative manner when you speak to her, you are getting a green light. You can continue the conversation until you start getting signals to back off.

The fourth point: If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem.

There’s a man with whom I went out on a single date—afternoon coffee, for one hour by the clock—on July 25th. In the two days after the date, he sent me about fifteen e-mails, scolding me for non-responsiveness. I e-mailed him back, saying, “Look, this is a disproportionate response to a single date. You are making me uncomfortable. Do not contact me again.” It is now October 7th. Does he still e-mail?

Yeah. He does. About every two weeks.

This man scores higher on the threat level scale than Man with the Cockroach Tattoos. (Who, after all, is guilty of nothing more than terrifying bad taste.) You see, Mr. E-mail has made it clear that he ignores what I say when he wants something from me. Now, I don’t know if he is an actual rapist, and I sincerely hope he’s not. But he is certainly Schrödinger’s Rapist, and this particular Schrödinger’s Rapist has a probability ratio greater than one in sixty. Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well.

So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.

For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.

an excerpt from Phaedra Starling’s “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (via lostgrrrls)

HOLY FUCK THE TRUTH.

Can every one of my male followers read this? And please, before you get defensive (“I would never rape anyone!”) keep in mind, women being afraid of Shrodinger’s Rapists (oh my god i still can’t get over the encompassing brilliance of this phrase) is a conditioned, learned response from being immersed in rape culture and the evolution of sexism and sexual violence in our society from the day we’re born. And unfortunately, it’s very difficult to unlearn without the efforts of all genders to dismantle it. Which is where you come in.

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It’s also just rude and disrespectful to patently ignore what someone has told you regarding their personal space, body, and time. Get a clue.

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I will always reblog this. Always.

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So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone.

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